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    Some thoughts

    Friday, March 26th, 2010

    Someday, perhaps soon, I will have things of my own to write here. But seeing as I was up until 5:30 in the morning with a completely awake and screaming child, I thought I’d share some other people’s thoughts (far more coherent than my own) that jumped out at me today. All of them are quoted in Writing Motherhood, an excellent book that I highly recommend.

    “What made my predicament worse was that I had come to believe one of the great American myths- the myth of the natural mother. I grew up thinking that parenting in general and mothering in particular was something a woman could just do without preparation…. We all thought that a “good mother” didn’t need lessons. -Susan Cheever

    Motherhood is a job. With most jobs, the more you do it, the better you get at it. There’s a certain learning curve and then you’re fine. Motherhood is a job where the learning curve never ends. You’re constantly trying to figure out the parameters of what’s expected of you. – Kate Moses

    It’s easy to lose sight of the larger perspective when we’re caught up in daily life- signing permission slips, making lunches, teaching our children to be kind to one another. It doesn’t always feel as if we’re doing anything truly profound. And yet with each kiss, with each lesson, we are doing the work of the ages. – Denise Roy

    On schedules

    Wednesday, March 24th, 2010

    “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour, and that one, is what we are doing. A schedule defends from chaos and whim. It is a net for catching days.”

    Anne Dillard

    How much do you  schedule? A lot? A little? How specific do you get?

    More to come….

    On being a Martha. No, not that one.

    Sunday, March 21st, 2010

    Oh my friends, it’s been a while. The fact is, I’ve been feeling like a bit of a mess on the homemaking front. I have enough laundry to choke a horse (if you were into that kind of thing, although it probably wouldn’t take that much. Choke an elephant? A herd of elephants?), clutter everywhere, and our household schedules are kaput. I feel completely ineffectual and unproductive.

    Martha Stewart I am not.

    (Although I did make two baby blankets today, that’s kind of Martha S.-ish.)

    But as I thought just now about also being such a slacker about posting here, and then thought that posting would just make me a poser, I remembered the Martha we named this site after. And I remembered what was said about her. She was “careful and troubled about many things”. She wasn’t a master homemaker, if she was, she wouldn’t have been so stressed out about having guests; things would have been under control on that front. But she was working at it, trying to make everyone comfortable, trying to nurture, and she was concerned.  And I’m certain that when she allowed herself to slow down and “choose the better part”, she received inspiration and teaching not only for her spiritual life, but her physical-cleaning her house- life as well.

    And I’m hoping that with some refocusing, I will too.